ME TOO

Unless you live in a cave or under a rock, we all have been bombarded with news of  allegations and direct accusations of sexual harassment, misbehavior and gross child perversion.  This is NOT a political problem or a socio-economic problem, this is a world wide epidemic. The problem is that this epidemic has been going on for years and even centuries, but because it is about a sexual issue people have considered it taboo.  We have even treated it as a personal or familiar problem, so we as the public should not get involved in family issues. Husbands freely raped...

UNTIL DEATH DO US PART…………..

I want to be honest in this blog….I am 47 and on my (yes) 3rd marriage.  My first one was for freedom…two very naive kids playing house thinking that he was my night in shining amour.  My  second one was for passion….the kind of love and passion that lights you up like fireworks in the sky, but like those spectacularly brilliant fireworks they fizzle quickly. My 3rd, well it was was pragmatic, a decision made with my mind and not so much my heart.  Even though I know its been my most intelligent move, we find ourself at each others throat. My...

I AM RICH…..RICH I TELL YOU…..

                    I woke up today and as usual the first thing I do is ready emails, text messages and of course Facebook.  After all I am from the east coast and my people have been up for hours.  And it struck me….. Yesterday, all students from NBHS received the sad news that one of our mentors, Coach Vincent Ascolese died at the age of 77 and I have been watching everyone friends and schoolmates alike leave condolence messages all over FB.  And it got me thinking.  What a rich life this...

MIRIAM DEL CARMEN ESPINOZA – WHAT A WOMAN !!!

MOM – This woman we call Mom has certain expectation.  We expect so much from that lady and yet during the time they are giving us what they have to give us we don’t see her, we don’t hear her, we don’t even appreciate her. My Mom, we had the weirdest relationship that I have ever had.  I now know she loved me, I now know she also didn’t know what to do with me.  To understand why she was the way she was, I guess I should explain that her parents, my grandparents, should have been jailed for the...

How do I hate you……Let me count the ways…….

People always say I hate people equally, that is so not true!!!  I hate everyone for very different reasons.  But let’s be clear, as the years pass, I am hating humanity lately.  Please allow me to elaborate. Prissy or Fake women…..I really dislike woman that think about the appearance more than they think about the words coming out of their mouth.  If you have a thought, mull it over, give it a mental run, and then say it.  I knew a Colombian lady (friend of my mom) I swear had her lipstick surgically attached to her hand.  She applied lipstick...

NEW YORK MINUTE…………….

It is no secret that I’ve had a difficult time finding work that I am completely satisfied with.  As you all know I arrived to California from New Jersey 4 years ago.  During my time in NY my career was in an upward momentum and I worked for Shipping Services Italia and my boss and I had a rare almost unicorn like relationship. (By Unicorn I mean almost mystical) I have searched and searched but could never match that relationship.  Here I am at job # 4 in 4 years and feeling very unhappy. At first I thought it was...

SHOOT …..I’M JEALOUS….AIN’T THAT A BITCH ….

Have you ever been jealous and somewhere in your deepest thoughts, you said to yourself.  “Why the hell am I feeling like this?  This is plain stupid.” It’s no great secret that I am on my 3rd marriage and husband 1 and 2 went out cheating.  Although if you ask them, they never cheated but if you ask me they absolutely cheated.  In the end, it doesn’t matter. Like everything else in life, the fact if they did or didn’t is all about perspective. My current husband is such a kind and decent man, he is so against cheating that...

DID ANYONE TELL YOU BEING A MOM WAS GOING TO BE………………………………..

Ok we will all agree that becoming a mom at 18 is not the ideal thing in life, but I was married and I was young and afraid of my mother and yes even God’s wrath on me if I got an abortion.  I’ll be honest I contemplated the fact, but after 2 seconds of telling my mom that I was pregnant, that idea was right out the window.  She filled me with so much fear that my husband’s opinion on the matter meant nothing to me. Once my daughter was born and now that I look at her, I...

MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE

MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE……..that is a loaded sentence.  If you are a man, well, you are taken aside from childhood and taught to be strong in convictions and make your presence known.  You are taught that if you go for your dreams you are NOT selfish you are determined; a man that knows his own mind. But if you are a woman, a Spanish woman, such as myself, that is so not the case.  I remember when I was a young girl, I would accompany my mom to her job, and she cleaned houses.  And I would dream of...

My 1st Blog Post – EVER !!!!!!

This is my very 1st blog, EVER!!!!  What does someone like me know about blogging? ….Nothing! Absolutely nothing. After all, I know almost nothing about computers.  I am the girl who slams the mouse on her desk as she and screams “What the hell is wrong with this damn computer!?!?”  To which my children reply, “Well for one thing you just broke the mouse and you hit the internet button and shut it off”  My reaction….. I Blush, giggle and say  “OH” I learned to type in a class room in North Bergen, NJ.  I was amazed at the exciting...